When All Else Fails: The Mini Mind-Vacation

Hello Friends!

May I start off by saying, I’m human.

I haven’t posted in a while, as you may have noticed. These last two and a half/three weeks have been insane in the life of Rhed.

My husband has started an Improv class/troupe/university called Madcap Theatre. Have you ever seen the show Whose Line Is It Anyways?? That’s what my husband does. He’s an actor-writer-director extraordinaire. (Interested? http://www.madcaptheatre.wordpress.com) He has started this on top of being a full-time student getting his Masters, and starting up a Theater journal/blog called http://www.thegreenroomchronicles.wordpress.com and working so we can eat. Also, he’s performing in Macbeth soon.


Now, I love that he’s a creative genius and all, but with that comes a slew of exciting roller-coaster rides. And a two-week long migraine of doom for me.

Along with his busy schedule constantly being in flux, I have received a new job, and have been working on the music side of this blog. Yay! Exciting! Whoohoo! (And about time I start the music posting, let me tell you.)

You may be wondering how this relates to a Healthy Temple…

All of this crazy new change is wonderful, but my body has definitely taken a toll. My workouts have been lacking, to be honest, and I can feel it in my body. Particularly my less-than-defined midsection. I’ve gained two very discouraging pounds due to stress and lack of routine. And some poor drink choices that go straight to my abs. I’d do the odd workout here or there, but it hasn’t been consistent. In fact, the other day I was working through a HIIT (High Intensity Interval Training) DVD at home and I found myself not challenged and peaceful like I normally feel, but challenged and… angry. I couldn’t understand it. There was nothing I was frustrated about, but here I was furious, and the more I worked my body, the angrier I became.

My dear husband gently stopped me, and popped in yoga DVD I had gone through a million times.  I went through my familiar asanas, and found myself smiling in Tree Pose. I realized I had been flooded with anger because that was my body’s way of saying This is not working today! Sometimes, like my husband did for me, others that love us can see what is best for us, better than we can. We’re all human, and our bodies are in constant flux. I had told myself that I needed to smash out a hard workout no matter what, but I really needed to stretch and center myself, and my hubs knew that. He handles change so much better than I do.

He also knows all too well what makes me happy and chill, so he took me to my favorite local small-business shop called Nila Beans. It’s full of wonderful things, like bright rich fabrics, hippie bags, pretty candles, wooden earrings, chill music (I’ve recently been on a Simon & Garfunkel kick on Pandora radio.) and…incense! So we got 10 sticks for dirt cheap (like $1.15 I think?!) and now my house smells like Egyptian Musk, Peace of Mind and China Rain.

What makes you happy? What makes you full of joy and smiling? (I know I ask these questions a lot, mainly because it’s a good reminder to myself!) Take a second and think about these things. Even though your day might be crazy busy, and you feel like you can’t escape it. Go to that happy place in your mind and REST. Try to focus on these things today. Relax. Even in the midst of the crazy, picture what brings you joy, and have a mini mind-vacation. Maybe try a different approach if you are struggling with your health or workout regimen like I have been. Because, Lord knows, we are all human, and we can all use some Peace of Mind. 😉

Peace, Love, and lots of Hugs,


Yep, I’m Jess From New Girl.

I have always been a rather…. strange person.

Now, I like the person I am, don’t get me wrong. However being weirdly introverted isn’t always a great thing. I’ve had friends invite me out for drinks and instead of saying, “Sure, I’d love to!” I’d make an excuse and stay home to watch New Girl. (Which is like watching my life. I am the awkward, quirky Jess, of course.)

I am perfectly content just chilling at home with my husband. We don’t have any kids yet, (I say ‘yet’ because he wants five of them. I then start coughing, and suggest three.) and so its quite easy for me to just have a quiet date night whenever our schedules allow. This brings me to the topic of THE BOX.

I have a beautiful little box I have created for myself. It’s wonderfully comfortable, with lava lamps, and hippies who dance under the moon. In fact, it’s spacious enough for a couple of cool cats to join me on occasion. Somehow, by the grace of God, I have found myself out of that lovely box lately. A couple of days ago, I would’ve said, “I am a singer, and have not found any way to sing in over two years!” and then it donned on me.

“I am a singer, and I have the power to make this happen.”

And so, I gingerly dipped my toes into the proverbial pool of creativity. The proverbial fish apparently nibbled on my proverbial toes, because here I am with an audition coming up, a blog with readers I love, and creativity is oozing out of my every orifice. (Ok, ew. Oriface? Gross word in general.)

The point I’m trying to make is this:

You have the power to change your life.

My best friend Amanda helped me to learn this by starting her own store. She’s passionate about simple, minimalist living and believes it can be applied to every aspect of ones’ life. So what did she do? She quit her office job. She decided that the idea that we work our entire lives at a job we hate is ludicrous  and she chose to be fearless. She dedicated her life to helping others, and created http://www.tshirtsntwine.com. (Check out her site, her craft is incredible!) I have never seen her happier and more full of life since she did this. Why don’t we all do this? Because we get caught up in the lie that says we are powerless. That things just…. happen to us. Sure, we see inspiring people like Amanda and really admire that they had the courage to take a leap of faith, but certainly we could never do the same…. LIES. What are you passionate about? What brings you joy? What have you never dared to do because it’s just too stinkin’ scary?

Do that thing.

Are you really living if you don’t?

Peace and Love!


You’re Not a Trash Can. Lose It For Good!


Life’s made up of them. And hey, variety is the spice of life, after all. But sometimes, they make my life difficult. If you know me personally, you know I’m indecisive. Lord of the Rings Extended Version, or the original? Don’t even get me started on which Harry Potter… Soy pasta,or Black Bean Taco? Should my salad have almonds, or edamame? Should I get original almond milk?? Or vanilla??? UGH!!!

The great thing about choices, is that I have them. The bad thing about choices, is that I am the one making them. When it comes to health, I’ve haven’t always been very wise with my choices. There was a time when I was making the choice to eat Little Caesars Italian Cheesy Bread every other night. Now, that was a poor health choice. A delicious one? Yes. But not a healthy one. Dang it, now I want cheesy bread. I digress.

The key to being successful in your weight-loss, is preparation. You’ve probably heard it before, but “failure to plan, is planning to fail”. Thankfully somebody smart said that and not me. I have learned to plan every meal in advance, and take joy in every victory, no matter how small. The other day my husband made me a gorgeous salad for lunch, while I was getting ready for work. Any you know what? It kind of hit me, just how far we’ve come over the last year. We’ve made some good, often challenging, choices over the last year and I couldn’t have done it without his support! Because on the days when I really want to eat like my temple’s a trash can, he makes me this:

Finding a support system to help you make healthy choices in your life is wonderful, and can be really helpful when you need to be held accountable. However, at the end of the day, this is your body, not anyone else’s. It is a temple, not a trash can, and deserves to be treated as such. My husband can make all the salad in the world for me, but I’m the one raising the fork to my mouth. Take responsibility for your body, because it’s beautiful, and you’re worth it. Now go out there, give a shout out to all the wonderful people in your life, make a good choice for your body, and have a great day!!

Peace and Love!